لقد أُذهلت عندما علمت أن زميلتي في السكن قد اشترت لي ثلاجة مجمدة وآنذاك أصبحت مديناً لها بـ 45 دولاراً، لأن هذه كانت المرة الأولى التي أسمع فيها عن هذه الشراء. في بداية هذا الشهر، أصبحت غاضبة وهددت برمي طعامي - حتى بدأت في فعل ذلك قبل أن يتدخل زميل آخر. في ذلك الوقت، لم تبدو منزعجة من كم كان يكلّفني. لتقديم بعض السياق، أنا على إعالة وآخذ مكافأة صغيرة من التأمين الاجتماعي. أشتري الفواكه والخضروات المجمدة بكميات كبيرة للحفاظ على نظام غذائي صحي خلال الشهر، وقد كنت دائمًا حريصاً على وجود مساحة كافية في الثلاجة. كما قمت بالاستفسار من زملائي الآخرين، وكانوا راضين عن الاتفاق. الآن أتساءل إن كنت يجب أن أدفع لها الـ 45 دولاراً. من المحتمل أنها ستضغط عليّ لفعل ذلك.
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قرأت عن مشكلة الثلاجة غير المرغوب فيها وأتفهم حيرتك، خاصة أنني مررت بموقف مشابه مع شريك سكن حاول فرض مصاريف لم أوافق عليها مسبقاً. صدمت عندما ذكرت أن رفيقتك هددت برمي طعامك دون اكتراث بظروفك المادية كشخص يعتمد على إعاقة، بينما الآن تطالبك بـ٤٥ دولاراً لشيء لم تطلبه. أنصحك بالتمسك بموقفك وعدم الدفع لأن ذلك يخلق سابقة خطيرة، فهل فكرت في تدوين كل الاتفاقات السكنية كتابياً منعاً لمثل هذه المشاكل مستقبلاً؟
I wouldn’t trust a $45 freezer—it’s either going to break and ruin your food or use so much electricity it’s not worth it.
They do make 5 Cu. Ft freezers that run between $120-$150, sounds like it’s a split cost between 3 roommates.
Yeah, I just bought one of those myself and they work well if that’s the case.
They’re super nice, we have a 15 Cu. One. The fridge freezers are too small. It’s just the three of us and mine was always overflowing.
Nope. We don’t split furniture costs. It’s a nightmare when someone moves out and tries to “buy your share” of the freezer. They wouldn’t do that — they’d say it’s theirs and take it. So if it’s theirs, they pay for it entirely. You just never use it.
“I can’t afford a freezer, but I can help you move your stuff if you want.”
Why would they do that?
Please keep receipts for all the good food you buy. Also, save any texts where she said she would throw your food away or acted maliciously.
If she throws your food away, I know this is easier said than done, and your disability may make it harder, but consider taking her to small claims court. In California, you have to specifically ask for punitive damages, but things like “making my disabled roommate’s life hell because she wouldn’t pay the money I’m trying to extort from her” could qualify as oppression, fraud, or malice.
Best of luck.
Get a used fridge just for you. But no way should you give her money for her purchase. What does she think will happen when you or she move out?
No, because if someone moves out, they won’t split the freezer. One person should own major physical purchases. Upkeep costs can be shared, but sole ownership should belong to one person.
No, you don’t owe her. Consent wasn’t obtained, and paying her would set a bad precedent.
Tell her to put her stuff in her new $45 freezer.
Probably $90 ($45 was probably half). I wonder what kind of freezer she ordered…
The kind of person who can use her own money since she took the initiative to buy it.
This is a good solution. Why would the OP use the freezer if they didn’t buy it? The person who bought it can use it. That’s your answer, OP.
No, you don’t owe her anything. Let her try to pressure you if she wants. Just keep saying no. Stay strong. Tell her, “Oh great, you bought yourself a freezer for your food.”
I’d say that exact thing to them honestly.
WTF? How old are you and your roommate? This sounds like high school BS.
I’m 25, and she’s 24 or 25, but younger than me.
If you want to keep the peace (and can), you could pay it this time but say, “We need to run purchases by each other before buying something if expecting the other person to contribute.” This is how I handle it with roommates after dealing with a similar issue.
What’s wrong with the old freezer?
Why was a new one bought?
Why was the roommate throwing things out?
Pressure on you? Tell her to fuck off. Is this the roommate who you said molested you?